Yeah sure I’m fine…

Why do we hide behind the words fine and ok? Why do we never feel that it’s ok to tell people how we really feel? I think it’s because we are all afraid of being judged for being ourselves. For letting our true feelings show. I tell my boy friend all the time that I’m fine when I’m secretly not, and I’m pretty sure he is the one person I shouldn’t be afraid of showing who I really am. But the truth is I am more scared to tell him anything than anybody else, just because I feel like if i tell him too much then he’ll get scared and leave.

I’ve done some pretty bad stuff in the 17 years that I have been on this earth, and I don’t think I have ever been comfortable around anyone but my parents, and that’s ok because well they are my parents and they don’t judge me because well they created me. The thing is, some of us actually have some REAL problems and these REAL problems get caught up in the “oh she is just being a drama queen” or “she is just trying to get attention”, but some people like myself, and my 3 best friends, we actually have real problems. One of my friends is seriously ill, the other one is a “smart girl” and only gets atttention from boys when they need her help, and my other best friend is worried about her self image, and none of them should worry about that because they are beautiful inside and out.

And well then there’s me, I never feel good enough for anyone, i feel broken and used, dirty and that at any moment I’m just going to fall apart.

Newsletter

Hey everyone,

So i have decided to create a newsletter so that you guys can keep up to date with what’s happening. There is a sign up link on my page under Newsletter on the side bar I will also put it on my social media page and it will be all over facebook and twitter!

 

This must be true love cause nothing else can break your heart.

So I’m going through a bit of rough patch of life, I just found out that i care more for my boy friend than he cares for me. He said i ask for to much. All I asked was to be wanted back, cared for and loved for who i am. How can it be so that you dedicate so much of your life to one person and can’t picture living without but they find it so easy to just walk away.

I love you! Oh but you don’t love me? Ok…

What is the point? What is the point in getting so wrapped up in love that you end up hating the person you are supposed to care about. What is the point in saying “i love you” when you dont mean it? Why put so much effort in to one person? That one person that you would maybe hope to marry.

So basically i was on the phone to my boy friend and well.. He basically hung up on me and didn’t bother to say i love you or anything. Just “I’ll call you back, f*ck”. Why do us girls put so much trust in to people we love? Is it because we just want to be wanted and accepted? Or is it because we are afraid of ending up alone?

I met an old lady today and she said “I have a had a wonderful life, but a lonely life.” This words have been playing in my head all afternoon. She never had children because she married too late and then her husband died 5 years after they got married. The thing about her is that she still had a great life, she got to meet people and remember them and travel and be great, and she doesn’t regret anything.

So why do girls waste so much time on love? And in finding the RIGHT guy? We shouldn’t be afraid to live life and to be alone. So girls be beautiful!

It’s ok not to be ok.

Generally a lot of girls have self image issues, relationship issues, friend issues… Well girls just have a lot of issues. We have this idea in our head on how everything is supposed to turn out, our future, our plan, our kids, our husband. Basically a lot of idea’s and sometime we tend to take it out on the person closest to us when those ideas tend not to turn out how we hoped. Our boy friend might break up with us (the person we thought we would marry), our best friend might betray us, or someone might say some nasty things about you on facebook, tumblr, ask.fm, twitter ECT.

I don’t think we mean to take it out on the people we love, I think society has put so much pressure on us girls that we just wish that everything would be ok. Girls have this guard up that they think protects them from the world, whether it be from social media or boys where we find it hard to trust people basically because we are so scared of being judged.

I know I feel like I am getting judged every single day, whether its randoms in my class, my best friends or my boy friend. I constantly feel like when I do something i rethink it go “wow why did i just do that”. I find myself doing and feeling like that on a daily basis. I can’t help it, its just me.

The point I’m trying to portray by this post though is that I want to tell all you girls out there that are struggling with friends, boy friends or even yourself that it’s ok to let your guard down, and its ok not to be ok.

The Truth about love is it comes and it goes….

So after popular demand from a certain couple of people I am going to try my very hardest to post something everyday. So today’s topic is the truth about love. Well sometimes I get to the point where I don’t believe in love and I feel like there is no point in putting effort in anymore, but other times I don’t know what i would do without love. So from one of my top 10 artists P!nk her song The Truth About Love got me thinking. Does love really come and go? Or do you only ever get one real chance at love, then everything else is just a “love” but not “True Love”.

Personally I think we only get that one chance to have a GREAT love, whether it be in high school or whether it be years after, but then I think what if my GREAT love isn’t really my GREAT love, if that make sense, what if this is just puppy love? Or young love? Your typically high school romance. I think when you find that GREAT love nothing in the world is going to matter anymore, old relationships that have turned ugly, or relationships that you just had to end because there was no hope anymore. I look back now on my past relationships and compare them to the love I’m in now and I think this is my chance, my big chance at this thing we call True Love. 

I think we can only hope that our true love is here to stay, because I’ve told a lot of people I’ve loved them and I think now that wasn’t love, I think what my boy friend and I have is a GREAT love and I don’t think anybody can ruin it for us except ourselves. 

TheGirlYouUsedToKnow 

What it’s like to be on the other end.

Hi everybody, 

So today was a really sad day because my favourite teacher of all time is leaving for London on Saturday and it was our last day with her! I think what I wanted to talk about tonight is how some people come in to your life and make such a huge difference but we don’t realise it’s happening until they are about to leave. 

My teacher was like this, I didn’t really hit me on how much she actually made a difference in my life until now, not only with school work, but on how I view the world. She helped me find who i am, help me find out who i want to be. I am in a great debt with her, and I hope this gets you guys thinking on how people change your life and to always thank them for making a difference in your life.

TheGirlYouUsedToKnow 

There is no hope in love.

Ello everyone,
I’m over life. Basically everything is shit and my boy friend is driving me insane. Sometimes I think we all reach a turning point in our relationships where we think love is going nowhere and it’s time for giving up. I think I’m at that stage. Iv started talking to this guy and he actually treats me and talks to me how I want someone to treat and talk to me. But 2 years is such a long time to give up on and to think that actually meant something once… Obviously not anymore.

TheGirlYouUsedToKnow

Regret

Hello bloggers,

So I just logged on at school to see if it was blocked and it’s not which means I can blog till my heart is content. So I have been at school for exactly 3 hours and I want to go home. Boys are ridiculous they turn you in to something that you don’t want to be whether it be a “green eyed monster” or that “needy girl friend”. They make you regret things that you don’t want to regret. I think when you get to the stage in your relationship when you want to walk away, you shouldn’t because you never know whats around the corner. I am a very strong believer in this statement, only because when I have gotten to that point where i want to give up but keep on fighting something “great” does come around.

But today I think I am at that point where I am regretting the one thing I treasure most being my relationship. I never wanted to regret something so beautiful and amazing, and I shouldn’t but I keep waiting for this “great” thing to come around the corner and it never comes. I love my boy friend with all my heart, but the words coming out of my mouth “i regret being with you” seemed impossible. But do you get to this point in time where all you can do is walk away? Walk away from the one person who I care about? But why care about someone so much if they don’t even care about you?

TheGirlYouUsedToKnow

L.O.V.E

Evening bloggers,

I want to know why do people love? Like what is the point in love if you are just going to get broken hearted over and over again until you find that “someone” who is your forever. Like what does love really mean?

Single people would probably say its:

L – loss

O – over-exaggeration

V – victim

E – Epic fail

But why do single people feel this way? How did they get to that point where they feel loss, over-exaggerated, a victim or avoided an epic fail? I think it’s because either they didn’t fit right for that person or the only way girls get in that situation in high school… PEOPLE! These annoying creatures on earth that when they see someone is happy they have to destroy it, now let me tell you I have had my fair share of bitches that steal my boy friends, or “friends” say things they shouldn’t, and it isn’t fair but if it wasn’t for them I wouldn’t be the person I am today or have found the person I can’t live without. 

So what does love mean for the people who are in love?

L – Lust

O – fOrever and Always 

V – vision for a future

E – Exciting 

I think when you find that person you love, don’t let anyone get in the way of loving them whether it be friends, family or even strangers, when you love someone none of that matters…

TheGirlYouUsedToKnow